Emotions
By A. Potter
They live within all of us
yet some do not see -
Others feel...
Others dream...
To explain them we try
yet some do not see -
Understand...
Interpret...
They are many, good and bad
yet some do not see -
Others jump, scream "joy"...
Others black, dark "weep"...
To thrive we must understand
for then we will see.
Interpret...
Believe.
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Monday, June 1, 2009
The moral of the story: Day #1
I can't figure out how to start writing about the first 3 months of being married. Should I talk about all the fun, the laughs, the stories we'll remember forever? Should I talk about the current trials and how we're pushing through? Past trials and how we made it through?
There's so much I could say but figuring out what to say and how to say it in a way that will keep you reading on, that's my challenge. First, I could probably tell you how Day #1 as a married couple turned out not quite as expected...we left Atlanta for Punta Cana, Dominican Republic early Sunday morning. As soon as the plane touched down on DR soil, Randall suddenly says, "Where's my wallet?" After waiting on the crew to search the plane and hoping the Delta office was still open at the airport, we left discouraged only to found out we missed our shuttle to our hotel. When we later got on another bus to the hotel, we arrived with only 3 bags instead of 4. So, one wallet and one suitcase down, we started Day #1 as Mr. and Mrs. Potter. Some people may think of that as a-not-so-good-way to start Day #1, but we rolled with it. We did what we had to...made calls to the US to cancel all the cards in the wallet, followed up with the bell man on the missing suitcase, and contacted Delta lost and found in Atlanta and Punta Cana. And, even though that's not how we wanted to spend our first afternoon/evening, it paid off. The missing suitcase was returned to us later that day and the wallet was waiting for us in Delta lost and found when we returned to Atlanta one week later.
And I think that's what marriage is about. I think we had a great start in that way...learning that life sometimes gives you lemons at the seemingly most inopportune time. But, the point is, we always have a way to move onward and upward, and Randall & I share that goal. So when we had our first fight as husband and wife and realized the myth of newlywed bliss is just that, a myth, we did what we had to do and worked through it. Now, with Randall on day 15 of 12-15+ hour days (weekends, too!), the trials continue.
We've worked through a lot of things since then. Some easier than others. Some stupider than others. At the end of the day, the wallet and the suitcase weren't that big of a deal. If they had been lost, we would have moved on and been okay. At the time, though, it seemed like a much bigger deal, especially when the lost suitcase seemed to multiply the tension. And I think that's how it is with most things you go through in life with your spouse, or your best friend, or your mother, brother, sister, father, whoever. When potential conflict/stress arises, we are tempted to think DISASTER without really considering the aftermath of the event. Or if we do consider it, we think its effects will be far more outreaching than they actually are in most cases.
One of my life mottos is "One Step at a Time"...just taking everything as it comes, one thing at a time. Even though it seems simple, it's not that easy to remember in the heat of the moment. Marriage isn't necessarily hard, but life is. People disappoint you, jobs don't work out the way we think they should, etcetera, etcetera. And biblegateway.com's verse of the day, sums up everything I want to say. God is awesome :)
“I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”- Revelation 21: 2-4
There's so much I could say but figuring out what to say and how to say it in a way that will keep you reading on, that's my challenge. First, I could probably tell you how Day #1 as a married couple turned out not quite as expected...we left Atlanta for Punta Cana, Dominican Republic early Sunday morning. As soon as the plane touched down on DR soil, Randall suddenly says, "Where's my wallet?" After waiting on the crew to search the plane and hoping the Delta office was still open at the airport, we left discouraged only to found out we missed our shuttle to our hotel. When we later got on another bus to the hotel, we arrived with only 3 bags instead of 4. So, one wallet and one suitcase down, we started Day #1 as Mr. and Mrs. Potter. Some people may think of that as a-not-so-good-way to start Day #1, but we rolled with it. We did what we had to...made calls to the US to cancel all the cards in the wallet, followed up with the bell man on the missing suitcase, and contacted Delta lost and found in Atlanta and Punta Cana. And, even though that's not how we wanted to spend our first afternoon/evening, it paid off. The missing suitcase was returned to us later that day and the wallet was waiting for us in Delta lost and found when we returned to Atlanta one week later.
And I think that's what marriage is about. I think we had a great start in that way...learning that life sometimes gives you lemons at the seemingly most inopportune time. But, the point is, we always have a way to move onward and upward, and Randall & I share that goal. So when we had our first fight as husband and wife and realized the myth of newlywed bliss is just that, a myth, we did what we had to do and worked through it. Now, with Randall on day 15 of 12-15+ hour days (weekends, too!), the trials continue.
We've worked through a lot of things since then. Some easier than others. Some stupider than others. At the end of the day, the wallet and the suitcase weren't that big of a deal. If they had been lost, we would have moved on and been okay. At the time, though, it seemed like a much bigger deal, especially when the lost suitcase seemed to multiply the tension. And I think that's how it is with most things you go through in life with your spouse, or your best friend, or your mother, brother, sister, father, whoever. When potential conflict/stress arises, we are tempted to think DISASTER without really considering the aftermath of the event. Or if we do consider it, we think its effects will be far more outreaching than they actually are in most cases.
One of my life mottos is "One Step at a Time"...just taking everything as it comes, one thing at a time. Even though it seems simple, it's not that easy to remember in the heat of the moment. Marriage isn't necessarily hard, but life is. People disappoint you, jobs don't work out the way we think they should, etcetera, etcetera. And biblegateway.com's verse of the day, sums up everything I want to say. God is awesome :)
“I saw the Holy City, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Now the dwelling of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”- Revelation 21: 2-4
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